The Secret Recipe to Not Eat the Cake

Ask yourself right now, on a scale of 1-10 (1 being incredibly isolated, and 10 being beyond connected) how connected do you feel to yourself, your family, and your community.  Connection is a key ingredient in the Path to Food Freedom.  

The communities that I am part of, even though they may not be directly related to anything to do with my eating journey, have absolutely been critical to my maintaining commitment to healing and growth. 

When I was really struggling with food, stuck in the cycles of out-of-control eating and bingeing every night, I felt deeply disconnected. Disconnected from myself, disconnected from others, and profoundly sad within that disconnection. I was lonely. I was bored. I was depressed.

Such an important part of my recovery was choosing to put myself out there in friendship and community. It was not easy. I struggled with social anxiety, and had a hard time at social gatherings. I wouldn’t leave the house for anything but essential reasons for months on end. I had very little social interaction.

So, trust me, I get it. I know how easy it is to stay isolated in out-of-control eating patterns. And what I really want you to know, is that choosing connection over isolation is a key part of finding freedom from out-of-control eating patterns.

Connection is one of the most important actions in my Path to Food Freedom work. When you connect with others, you get out of your head. Connection is one of the deeper hungers that all humans feel. And when we don't find it through other humans or animals, we will search for it in food.

1) Choose a specific time in your day when you know you might go into that lonely and bored space. 
2) Make a commitment to send a text message to a friend or family member at this time of day for 1 week (7 total texts).
3) Set an alarm on your phone to remind you at that time every day. 
4) When the alarm goes off, take a moment regardless of what else you are doing or not doing, and send that text. Just a simple text sending love and well wishes, or even better, a text inviting that person to do something together soon. 

Think deeply about what you really value and care about. Determine what groups and communities gather around this subject. This might be a hobby, a spiritual practice, a dance class, or a creative group project.

Research potential community events and put one on your calendar.  Then actually show up, no matter how uncomfortable it feels.  Get involved in a community that meets regularly to focus on something that you all value. Over time being a part of this kind of community will fill you deeply, and eventually keep you from reaching to food to fill you up.